Thanks everyone for these thoughts! And to respond to them, yeah I totally see and understand these feelings. I also agree to this angle. That’s why I already prefaced my post as “borderline”. And I know I know about social anxiety, ND, and a lot of different obstacles to being confident, and approach people, or to say “please buy stuff from me”. In fact I think that expecting that everyone are able to work on this bond in a way that requires so much confidence and consideration, is - from certain perspective - i guess ableist and privileged.
But, I want to also present a different angle. And my almost kneejerk reaction to “to make people want your music they need a personality and a bond behind it” was “but it’s not about making people want your music!”. i think it’s about allowing appreciation of those who already like and want your music. in other words, and lets’ move away from mrs Hyatt marketing-speak, I feel like here are “friends to be made” on the basis of already existing appreciation - audience who appreciate you as a musician, as creator, as someone who entered their space by allowing them to have an aesthetic experience of your art. there already IS a bond.
i always felt that i rather play to 50 people who i know will go on a music adventure with me, than to play the stadium of people who came to either have fun or drool in total star-struck mode, missing the sound world that i’m trying to make.
i don’t know if i’m making sense, but, i have a feeling that if you aproach this idea of simply allowing being yourself, and openning a window, a door, to your work, your passions, your peculiarities, even your introvert vulnerability, those who really listen will appreciate being part of this community of equals - in the weirdness, in performance too (to adress roberta’s weirdos with mouse helmets) - and those are the ones we actually really want to ‘consume’ our art (no matter how minimalist, queer, or weirdo it is), - not numbers on tiktok and twosilable utterances on soundcloud,…
one of the little advices that i picked i don’t know where but it really stuck in my head, when somehow faced with the question “but what should i communicate to my audience out of actual art” was “just talk about why this matters to you, why is it important to you, regardless how weird it seems”. we are all humans, and apart from aesthetic experience that we as artists provide members of our audience, we also create a feeling of being human, and that includes being part of a community.
and that’s the angle i’m getting out from this what Hyatt is talking about. like austin kleon wrote “you want hearts, not eyeballs”. vanity metrics don’t mean anything. they are worthless, so we should stop chasing them.